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02/07/2014

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Zabeth8

Brilliant!

Promethean Man

Also add, "If you go home with a man, and he doesn't have books, don't fuck him."

On a serious note, RoK is a heaping pile of negative bullshit. Additionally, Jezebel is garbage as well. Neither site has many intelligible articles. In fact, most of the internet is useless trash.

Donna Lee

Thank you for your checklist, which I might have to print out and give to women I see kowtowing to dickheads who treat them like garbage.

Xedri

Hell to the yes.

EN

Yeah, my soon to be ex-husband:

- his performance issues? not a problem. I wasn't in the mood? Bad and I was being nasty to him. Of course the fact that it was a medical issue which destroyed his chance of having kids due to ignoring it for several years caused complete and utter shock and he still refuses to acknowledge that he should have sought advice when the perfomence issues started.

- everything by rote and no form of actually registering more than a warm body to use.

- Whilst I was seriously mentally ill he decided I should go to bed with him. I declined. He proceeded to have a 6 week stomach bug which he actually verbally blamed on me turning him down and making him feel unloved. (Note: I later found out he had started a relationship with another girl about 2 weeks before).

- Tried to blame the need for a divorce on me being 'nasty' (aka asking him not to gather information from others to control me by saying I *could* do x and y social events as he knew what I was doing that weekend would be over...) and hide the real reason because it obviously didn't matter he was sleeping with someone else and wanted to have kids with her which she won't do until they are married.....

My next relationship will be based on Raw honesty. They can't deal with it then they can't deal with me....

Yosh

Such are many of the concerns of people who are not senior to their karma, clairvoyance, or spiritual capability. When one is senior to their karma, and agreements, existing partners will even create situations to die to make way for your own future relationship agreements. Those who are senior to their karma are dangerous forces.

Men who exhibit misogynistic qualities are deeply hurt and their internal permission to have affinity with themselves, and women, is very much stuck. They lash out, develop diseased belief systems, and act angrily because they have not healed the underlying unconscious images, and patterns, behind their present time experiences and relationships.

So, one must see beyond the concept of games, and socialities, and into the underlying hierarchies and configurations of pictures, and subconscious beliefs, which compose the personal traumas upon which group agreements are formed. Showing people how to heal those wounds is a great work and allows one to change entire communities. Go deep enough and you will discover a psychedelia of unexamined thoughts -- a tapestry of images showing you your own truth and karma.

If one isn't clairvoyantly interviewing their potential future partners, months before any meeting occurs, then it is highly doubtful that one is senior to one's own karma. But that is okay, for those still operating in the carnival of life. Those above the carnival are senior to its games, which are seen as growth experiences to enjoy, and with which to take steps up as a spirit in a body.

Liana

You are my new favorite person. Thank you for writing this and thank you for writing your book. I am going to get hold of it ASAP. I have admired some people in the PUA community and severely disagreed with some, and I have longed for a Siren perspective in there. Thank you so much.

josh pellicer

These are great tips and advices thanks

Ralph Dratman

I completely agree about shunning misogynists and bullies, but I doubt that your logical entreaties to stay away from nasty men will have much effect. Not only are the women in the spell of an addiction, they are acting on ancient instinct to find a powerful, and perhaps therefore very mean and nasty mate.

At least, that is my conjecture, based on years of watching the unthinking subservience of, for example, most female clerical workers. And since i have my own passion for submission, I can only imagine how powerful that force would become if augmented by (admittedly hypothetical) gender-linked instincts.

My private opinion is that most men need (pharmacological?) nice-ing up while most women need toughening up (and not just with self-defense exercises, not just with assertiveness training) .

The great problem with our instinctual actions is that sometimes they work so well in assuring viable offspring in successive generations.

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