Hi guys! It's me with another guest post again, this time for PassionateU.com, a great educational site with awesome clips that will teach you how to take your sex life to the next level. Read on...
Embracing Your Dark Side: The Importance of Sharing Your Fantasies
During my forays into the internet world of sex and seduction writing, I’ve come across countless articles advising on ways to share your fantasies with your partner. Bring it up outside the bedroom. Watch a movie with a similar theme and drop a hint. Send it in a text message. Show her the article you’re reading. Hand him a written graph of things you wish for. Helpful checklists for the shy and nervous.
But rarely do I see anyone talking about why sharing, honoring, and indulging your fantasies is so important. And I think that if I can convey the weight of that, and how the very scariness of those conversations most often serves as an augury for the far-reaching fulfillment that comes thereafter, then embarking on those confessions will soon become, if not easy, at least exciting and deeply worthwhile. And then at some point you may even realize that you’re actually looking forward to the adrenaline rush of revealing the vulnerability of your inner workings.
1. Better Sex Creates Stronger Bonds
Pleasure for pleasure’s sake would be enough, but our sexual pleasure creates stronger bonds in our relationships too. At orgasm, our brains release chemicals that are designed to facilitate pairbonding, little neurochemicals like dopamine (which causes us to continue to seek pleasure from our partner) and oxytocin (which causes us to feel safe and affectionate with our partner). So the act of sex, and of creating better sex, is a noble one because it fosters intimacy and stronger partnerships.
When you share with your partner what kinds of things will make you come hardest, and when you create a safe space for them to do the same, you are also sharing with them several keys to making your relationship stronger.