This past week I published my first article in pure sex writing for DatingAdvice.com. It took a lot of courage to make the leap into talking about the nitty gritty of flesh and fluids, but I'm proud of how it turned out, so check it out here!
Often when I tell people that I'm a seduction coach, they'll reply, "Oh, you mean you teach those classes on how to give blowjobs?" And in the past I've always replied, "No, because if you think I can teach you how to suck off your man better than you can and I've never even met him, then one of us has a problem. Maybe both. Possibly all three."
One day on the internet I came across an article on just that topic, and it was the most awful, problematic tripe about oral sex I had ever read. With lines like, “Imagine you’re licking an ice cream cone and not a fleshy appendage protruding from his body,” “Don’t spoil it when it’s finally almost over,” and “Try to resist the urge to give him the death stare that says, ‘if you don’t come soon, I’m going to kill you,’” I gasped in horror as I read. “Christ,” I tweeted back at the authors, “do you even like men??”
It was that same day that DatingAdvice.com approached me asking if I would write an article on how to give a blowjob, and I responded with an enthusiastic YES.
There weren’t many things I was a natural at when it came to sex and relationships, but giving head was one of them. I was such a late bloomer that by the time I finally gave my first bj at the relatively ripe age of 21, I was so stoked to finally have cock in my mouth that I gave myself over to it with raw enthusiasm. So really the core issue here, judging by some of the information that’s already out there, it seems, is that I have to figure out how to impart the ability to enjoy oneself during the act. I believe that with a sufficient amount of passion for providing your lover with pleasure, much of the technique will follow naturally. I mean, you can get a “top ten tips” in any Cosmo, right? What can I actually do with my word count here that might actually cut through the noise and boundlessly transform your next cocksucking endeavor? So while I’ll be discussing technique too, what I most hope to convey throughout the individual tips and tricks listed here is the astounding potential for bliss within the act of oral sex – not just for the receiver, but for the giver.
Yes, you read that right.