I got this message in my inbox last night:
I've been feeling compelled to reach out to you after reading your blog and some of your posts on this forum.
Never have I come across someone so enigmatic, so compelling, so intriguing as you. I find your history, your story, to be fascinating... late-blooming sexuality, followed by a plunge into BDSM, seduction, burlesque, scars & bars, lingerie and vulnerability.
Perhaps it is that element of openness & willingness to share that makes you so unique, as I mentioned before--your striking vulnerability and willingness to be an island of authenticity, in a sea of the simulacra, an ocean of plasticity.
I have long considered authenticity and realness to be the missing element in most aspects of conventional, contemporary seduction philosophy. This is why most seduction ultimately fails in the long run. It's impossible to keep up a facade forever. It's not sustainable for either. You alluded to this in a blog post, and I have found this to be true over and over again.
Therefore I consider any true seduction to be that which brings the seducer closer to his or her authentic self in the process of creating a compelling experience for the loved one being seduced. In this way, I consider seduction ultimately a path of self-discovery, one in which we become more and more comfortable in our own skin, expressing our desire and longing without a hint of regret or self-recrimination for our desires, for our attraction, for our longing to give love and to receive love.
So seduction becomes a cultivation of desire, a way to generate and channel our innate sexual energy in a way that produces tremendous good in the world, namely the feelings of love and affection, the profoundly pleasurable feelings of both the seductor and the seduced, the lover and the beloved. It creates unity, bringing two hearts together. This can happen long term. It's just unfortunately rare that two lovers are committed enough to seducing each other, to the continual evolution of self and the opening to love that must occur to keep the spark & excitement fresh. It is possible.
Which brings up another great point, that all seduction must come from a place of love, from a deeply open and vulnerable heart, one filled with love, or else it becomes an activity based on control and fear. Lots of people in the seduction community come to seduction out of feelings of inadequacy, incompleteness, and lack of self confidence, and use it as a way to fill the void. This is not a bad thing, but I believe it's limiting if it does not progress from this initial stage to one of wholeness.
Even D/s activities can and should ultimately evolve from a deeply loving & open heart, because it takes a powerful and passionate love to open someone, to bring them to a place of submission to love, or to deeply open one's self in submission to love. In a way, perhaps there are fewer ways to express love more deeply, than by bringing one's lover to submission to love, and to submit to being loved.
Thanks for being my muse for the last few weeks, for being who you are.
This made my day and helped me keep going on one of those days when it had started to feel hopeless continuing to fight the good fight. Thanks -- I needed that. :)